Bogged Down Again

Last month’s new beginning got bogged down again. Our usually sunny January of dazzling snow shrunk into dirty slush under heavy grey skies. Bright skies remained hidden until February — or did the two months simply switch places, as often occurs here and there during a typical year? As a consequence, I got bogged down, too.

But, never mind. One must break out of the doldrums and look ahead. It’s February. Ash Wednesday is just around the corner.

So is Valentine’s Day. On the same Wednesday. Oh dear! How do we celebrate both?

Perhaps these little girls have the right idea?

It’s all in the personal attitude, isn’t it?

New Beginnings

New Year’s Day always promises a new beginning for me. Since today is a Monday, and Mondays are my traditional laundry day, we have the promise of clean pajamas for tonight. Only today’s modern convenience of washer and dryer in mid-winter, however, makes that promise possible. No sloshing through a wet garden to reach a clothesline, no stretching lines inside the house, as my mother and grandmother did in their day, no driving to a laundromat several blocks away.

My personal new beginning is to return to my writing which I have sorely neglected. We had expected to settle into our elder years like comfortable old fogies, but these past months have been difficult for us to cope since my husband’s diabetic collapse. Our lifestyle changed drastically, especially on the heels of my ongoing recovery from a stroke two years ago. Suffice it to say that I had to learn how to manage Hubby’s condition not only by regulating his meals but also administering his injections four times a day, not to mention continuing to uphold our household standards while striving not to fall over yet again.       

However, now that the worse is past, and the struggle has eased, we can begin to enjoy what’s left of our elder years here at home. I promised myself that I would resume my writing in mid-winter. I’ve missed it. So, here we go.

Just when is “mid-winter” anyway? Are we there yet? Not really.

Many people think the midpoint of winter occurs on Ground Hog Day. According to the latest edition of Farmers’ Almanac, it falls on Saturday, the 3rd of February 2024. That’s exactly between the Winter Solstice and the Spring Equinox.

In other words, between the middle of January and the middle of February. But I’ll not wait until then to write. I’ve already begun!

  

Herschel’s Folly ~ a memory

We called it the Summerhouse. Folks used to drive out from town to while away lazy Sunday afternoons with us. We all trailed from the main house as Daddy led us across lawns, past sun-blissed marigolds and zinnias and purple petunias, and beyond the scuppernong grape arbor buzzing with bees. Alice and I helped Mother carry linen cutwork cloths and trays laden with pound cake and lemonade and, sometimes, little glass dishes ice cream with fruit cocktail spooned over the top. The ladies giggled, “Oh, dear,” as their heels of town shoes sank into the St. Augustine grass.

One afternoon an assortment of cousins from Apalachicola—a Southern writer visiting from New York, her rather taciturn husband, and two little girls, Jeremy and Cambia—dropped by to visit Mama Nedley, as they were passing through the Florida panhandle. They brought an elderly aunt in a black lacy dress hanging to her ankles. Among such gentility, I felt gawky in my shorts, halter stop and sandals, all adolescent arms and legs. While Mama entertained her guests, Mother sent me back to the main house—for more iced tea, I think—and one of the little girls asked, “Where did the high-up girl go?”

That story got told over and over long after I outgrew the old square table where my sister and I frittered away long summer hours. We carried out sandwiches of cream cheese and green olives for lunches we made ourselves. We played endless rounds of Old Maids and Checkers, read books borrowed from the downtown library, and counted red convertibles swishing past on the highway beyond. We listened to Perry Como and Eddie Fisher on a little transistor radio borrowed from Mama until, one hot day, it smoked itself dead, smelling like burnt rubber. Alice and I shrieked, then laughed and laughed until Mother stormed out from the main house, flapping her apron. The back screen door slapped behind her.

“Hooligans!” she hollered. “What will the neighbors think?” Never mind that the nearest neighbor was at least a couple hundred yards beyond the pine woods.

During the previous winter months, Daddy designed this little screened gazebo. Many evenings he and Mr. Chavers from down our red clay road hunched over the blueprints they laid out on our dining room table. They discussed siting the gazebo under the massive old oak trees where my sister, Alice, and I would scramble like tomboys until Mr. Chavers’s workmen arrived.

I don’t really remember the weeks—months?—of construction, only the finished project. Built-in benches ran along the inside perimeter. The floor was polished green cement, not painted on the surface but swirled within the cement itself—quite an innovative idea back in the 1950s. Daddy built a square table from Mama Nedley’s old cedar chest and six tall Adirondack chairs from cured lumber milled from some of our own pines. My favorite purple Formosa azaleas, from the Southern Indica family, eventually surrounded the eight walls of screens.

One afternoon, a long black Cadillac with shark fins nosed itself through the highway gates that somebody had left open. Tires scrunched over dried twigs on the ground until the car stopped right by the summerhouse. Alice and I sat stock still and watched two swarthy men looking back at us. They murmured to each other, nodded their heads, glanced over at us again. By and by, they swung open the car doors, unfolded their bodies suited in pin-stripes, pointed wingtip shoes toward the ground and rolled out. They stretched, as though stiff from a road trip, then sauntered over to the summerhouse. I rushed to latch the screen door.

“Howdy. You folks live around here?” the stocky one asked.

They pushed back their Fedoras from sweaty black curls, leaned their heads forward and looked all around under the rafters. Merciful heavens! What were they thinking?

“That’s awright. We jesswanna see the house. Nice place you got here.”

They murmured to each other, ignoring us, then turned back to the car. Hinges squawked as they opened the car doors. One man came back and set two oranges on the doorstep, then sprang back into the car and slammed the door. Tires scrunched and spun out onto the highway, back toward town.

Mother, who had been watching from the back porch of the main house, ran out and shrieked, “Don’t you dare eat those oranges! You hear me?”

As it turned out, those men were Greek businessmen, owners of the B & B restaurant downtown. Later, after supper, Daddy told us he had invited them to drive out and look at his Folly. They planned to build one, too.

He was the “somebody” who had left the gates open to the highway.

from THE DIARY OF AN EDWARDIAN LADY . . .

. . . summer flowers for my Eastern Canada friends currently swathed in orange haze. I commiserate with you all. I know what that’s like to live and try to breathe in this stuff, having suffered during previous summers. And I pray for rain – rain – rain for you all!

This, too, will pass . . . .

June just blew in on the evening breeze . . . .

After the excitement of the May roses emerging bud by bud and bursting into sudden bloom, sudden evening winds from the Cascade Mountains brought almost chilly weather back. No, we did not revert to March — not that cold — just a cooling trend, great for snuggling under a white duvet.

Morning sunshine, however, soon warms the gardens with current temperatures in mid-70s, down from upper 80s. Lovely, like an extension of spring. Good for Hubby and me to recover from a frightful experience last week, three separate trips to the ER for runaway blood sugar levels on three different days, complete with sirens and flashing lights.

All is quiet, now, as I learn to handle Hubby’s insulin and meds and regulate his diabetic diet. No more late-night gorging on ice cream!

And, sadly, no more pasta.

The climbing roses featured above probably is a rosa ‘Complicata’ — a gallaca introduced in the 19th century. It’s thought to be a cross of rosa micrantha and a gallica parent. In mid-June the whole plant is covered with a mass of single pink flowers. It has ample, large foliage and produces a good crop of red hips in the autumn. Often grown as a climber, it forms an arching, spreading shrub,.bu often is trained as a climber. Dated prior to 1902.

A Garden Memory

While Elizabeth’s girls were visiting me one summer, they delighted in “helping Grammy” as I worked in my gardens. I had collected a few old child-sized gardening tools I found in a yard sale, made of colorful metal with wood handles, and stored in an old, somewhat leaky watering can on my workbench.

One morning the girls dug into the soil in the rose rondel and raked it smooth They filled small clay pots with the dirt and fine mulch. They plucked stems of lavender and “planted” them into those pots.

(I don’t recall where they displayed their handiwork.)

On another day I worked in the Japanese garden on the north side of the house. They filched trimmings of elderberry I had dropped to the ground after pruning some overgrowth. With merry giggles, those intrepid little girls “planted” them alongside the boxwood hedge surrounding the herb garden around the corner from where I was working.

I never noticed until Elizabeth pointed them out to me later.

I burst out laughing. I declared that we’d simply leave them be for the time being. Two days later, the girls decided on their own that branches of dried-out leaves wouldn’t do, after all, so they pulled them all out and dumped them somewhere.

(I don’t recall where.)

In my memory of that summer, they are reminiscent of Elizabeth von Arnim’s three little girls in her novel, The Solitary Summer (1899).

Today, a dozen or so years later, the oldest of my daughter Elizabeth’s three girls is a freshman in college; the two younger girls, in high school. They have two younger brothers. I stumbled upon this story as I was flipping through one of my older garden journals.

(I don’t recall what I was looking for.)

CREDIT: Images found online Microsoft Bing search engine.